Asia, 42, Maryland, USA
“Four years into our marriage, my husband went on trial for murder. When he was found guilty, my world fell apart. I tried to make the relationship despite him being locked up, but after a few years, we divorced. I’d always promised myself that my kids would have a present, available father; he wouldn’t be incarcerated, like my father was. But here I was, a single 26-year-old mother of two…with another one on the way.
I tried to lean on the Lord, but as the years passed, I began to drift away. I surrounded myself with worldly people and began spending time in ungodly environments. I began dating around and eventually met a guy who seemed perfect for me. We had good chemistry and could laugh and talk about anything. He didn’t know Jesus, but because I was so far from Him myself, I didn’t even care.
Gradually, our relationship grew toxic. It was a real love and hip hop type of relationship. There was arguing, cheating, mental and emotional abuse, and of course, sex. From the beginning, I heard the Lord tell me that I deserved better. But I was convinced that my boyfriend could change…so I stayed.
After an entire decade of this, God commanded me to let the relationship go. I remember thinking that I didn’t have the strength to leave — I was always drawn back. Then, out of the blue, I got an Instagram message from my pastor: “It’s time for you to change your life.” I was surprised, because she never texted me like that. She then sent a second message: “It’s time to let him go.” When I started to respond, the message disappeared. I asked if she’d just sent me a message…and she said no. The message was from the Lord and I knew it.
I called the guy and told him we were done. I blocked his number, asked God to break the soul tie, and rededicated my life to Christ. As I began reading the Bible and fellowshipping with other believers, the Lord changed my entire worldview. I am now abstinent and will remain so until marriage. I realized the way I was living my life deeply affected my kids. I’m so thankful that God loved me enough to save me; in doing so, He’s changed my life and the lives of my kids. The cycle of incarceration and broken relationships has been broken — not by me or my efforts, but by the Blood of Christ.”
“Therefore if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed.” -John 8:36